Bringing aid to some needy families in the mountains.

Greetings from Thailand!

The title for my blog today comes from some modern day poets and prophets, Story of the Year (a punk-rock band I've liked since high school).  During a workout at the gym, I caught some of the lyrics of one of their songs:

"So tell me that I am not all alone and everything is alright."
It seems like they speak for many of us.

It hits two of our fundamental fears in life:

1.  We are alone, unloved, never really understood, never really accepted, and never really belong.

2.  The world often seems to be going to crap (fill in your own synonym here).

The world, the climate, our country, values, relationships, health, etc.

It seems even amidst prosperity, many people are feeling increasingly pessimistic about the future.

We have lost faith in so many of our leaders, spiritual and political.

We have access to more information than ever and what we have seen has made our hearts sink, more than rise.

Our good friends provide computer training to our house parents every month.

The woman on the right escaped an abusive marriage, but now she and her baby live in a tent on the side of a hill.

This hard working family needed a few bed mats.

This kind lady on the left is the head of Social Work in Chiang Mai. We are excited to work with her more in bringing relief to our neighbors in need.

And in this climate, many are appealing to massive crowds by joining the chorus of doom and gloom.

Cynical is the mood of the hour and cynical people feed it.

This cynicism has affected more of us than we realize.

In the midst of all this pessimism, a remarkable woman who died over 600 years ago has a powerful message for us:

"All shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well."

Julian of Norwich is credited as the first woman to write a book in the English language.

In a time of incredible turmoil, constant conflict, and no pain medication, Julian was confident that everything was alright.

How?

Perhaps it sounds a bit naive.

If only she knew about nuclear weapons, climate change, etc, etc.

If only she knew how lonely it could feel with endless social media, but no real friends, perhaps she wouldn't have said it.

Physical Training Day with Home of Grace.

Phillip went beast mode on the leg press and tied for 1st with John for the contest.

Krit wasn't quite sure how this worked...

Mark was all focus on the shoulder machine.

Julian got a glimpse of something and that vision allowed her to look at all the insanity around her, all the violence, all the injustice, and even her own personal pain, and hope.

Hope.

She felt lonely, she knew things were not aright, right now.

She didn't try to deny or ignore the evil around her or the suffering, but she acknowledged them as very real, just not final, realities.

But hope is the ability to look ahead, into the unknown, uncertain future and know that things will be alright.

It is an ability many of us, religious and nonreligious alike, have lost.

Contrary to much of what you hear and read today, this is the message of Jesus for the world:

"You are not alone, you are loved, you are welcomed, you belong.  There is hope.  
Things are wrong, but they can and will all be made right."

Contrary to so much anger and protesting from Christians, this is the hope they are supposed to be sharing:

Not the doom of the world, but the redemption of the world.

One of the first things Jesus taught people was that you don't need to worry about anything, especially not the future.

Because you are not alone (none of us), and everything will be alright.

Not pie-in-the-sky idealism, but practical, literally down-to-earth, presence.

That's why the last thing He said was: "I will be with you always."

The girls love the trampoline!  Thanks Jay and Heidi, Liesl, and Evelyn Pound!

Mark's guitar skills are really impressive; he led a special music number at his church.

Birthday lunch for Matt--Japanese food! (Can you see the baby is almost ready to make her appearance?! Oct 28...)

Lateral lifts, these boys have it down!

So Jesus' advice for your life starts with learning to not give in to worry and fear, and ends with the reminder you are never alone because He will be with you wherever you go.

Fear is causing us all sorts of misery.

The closest emotion to fear is anger, which is why so many of our fears end up making us angry.

This is clear to see in politics and religion (of all varieties). 

We are told to fear 'them' (those who don't think like we do) and that if we don't fight for our rights, 'they' will take them, and ruin our country, our church, our traditions, etc.

We are told to fear an angry God who frowns in disapproval over us, and that if we don't think and  do the things they say we should, we will be terribly punished.

You can see the anger in people who preach these kinds of messages, politicians and pastors alike.

That bothers me tremendously.

Everyone is so angry, so sure they are right, and...so miserable.

This desperate longing to belong, to be part of the group, leads us to further and further divisions.

Because we are afraid of the "others" and afraid to be alone.

All this fear of others who are not like us, which turns so quickly to anger, leaves us exhausted and frustrated and cynical.

Our sweet friend Cindy is a great example of extravagant love. We love her!

So many sweet friends.

For those of us who claim to be followers of Jesus, can we really claim this is a good way to live?

For those of us who are not religious, are you tired of the cycle of pessimism, cynicism, and hopelessness?

When God gets hold of someone's life (when they decide they want to join His project of making the world right), then one of the first things that changes is joy comes.

Some people call this the "fruit" or result, of God living in us.

There is a whole list of things that begin to change when God comes near to us:

There is more love (and less hate).

There is more joy (and less cynicism).

There is more peace (and less anxiety and stress).

There is more patience (with yourself and with others).

There is more kindness (less screaming arguments).

This raises interesting, troubling questions for us who claim to be religious
(how is it we are supposed to have God in us, and yet we are still so angry and fearful?).

But I am more interested in what it says about God.

What must God be like if wherever He goes, there is more love, joy, peace, patience, and kindness?

Who wouldn't want someone like that to be around more often?

Even the house mothers are getting into it!

Our house mother Piikune. She worked harder than anyone on fitness day!

The girls wanted to learn to bake cake!

Mug cakes turned out amazing!

Religion has often (rightly) been accused of being an opiate of the people who cannot handle the bitter reality of life.

But Jesus is not offering an opiate to dull your pain.

He is offering you a cup of coffee and a shovel, to wake you up and prepare you to meet each day, ready to work.

We are not watching a movie where we know the ending and we just have to wait and see that everything will be alright.

Nor are we hiding in a bunker, avoiding contamination.

We are co-workers and partners in the project.

We don't need any more pessimistic, cynical people to tell us how bad things are.

And we don't need any pie-in-the-sky religious people to tell us just come join the group, and hang on until God comes and wipes everything out and proves us right.

Birthday squid!

Got to eat after all that hard work!

Joshua is one of our college graduates and staff members, and he continues to impress me. He can learn just about anything (flux-core welding most recently) and he has a genuinely kind heart and he loves to help others.

Meet our new co-workers, the Parker Family!  They arrive this week and we are all excited to have them!

What we need is cheerful, hopeful people living their lives to make themselves and their world better.

What we need is determined, patient, kind people to lead us to justice, not by picketing signs and angry social media posts, but by the example of their lives.

You are not alone and everything will be alright.

This is the forgotten message of Jesus.

Too often His message has been 'adjusted' for political or institutional purposes.

Instead of a message of joy to the world, it often becomes a message of preferential treatment for a chosen few.

Instead of being a cause for the trees to clap their hands and for the rivers to sing for joy, it has been turned into a message of angry destruction, and the rescue of the people who think the right things.

Imagine for a moment a life entirely free from fear.

So much of our time and energy is spent worrying.

But what if it doesn't have to be that way?

But knowledge, or even belief, isn't chiefly what we need.

We need experience.

Hmm...takes after his mom I think.

Grandpa and Grandma were a big help to put on a little party for Matt!

Happy Penpals!

Neiko has asked me to be his physical trainer and we have a lot of fun!

I celebrated my 33rd birthday a few weeks ago.

What struck me this year was that I had begun to experience what I (thought) I already believed.

I am not sure it does anyone any good to believe in God, until you experience that life can be a good thing.

In fact, believing in God might set you back, if your picture of God is a poor one.

It might be better to stay an agnostic, until you experience a God worth believing in.

Let me try to explain my experience on my birthday:

I realized that I really did think that at the heart of everything, was goodness and love (God).

I realized that so long as I could hold on to that idea, I was not afraid of the future (or anything else).

But the difference is I am coming to experience it, not just think it is so.

Too much of our spiritual life is taken up with what we think we believe.

The spiritual life is not a life separate from your physical life.

You have one life, and that is the life you and God are both interested in: the one you live every day.

Some good friends and mentors.

This baby is just about ready!

These three make me rich beyond my dreams!

I am 33 years old, and this is the best season of my life.

If your philosophy of life is not leading to a better life, more free from fear and more full of love for your neighbors, then I suggest it may be time to make a change.

There is a pride in cynicism and there is a humility in happiness.

Cynicism says that people and things do not change, and that I will choose fear over love.

Happiness says that we do not see or know everything, but I will choose love over fear. 

It is not a certainty, not a moral or spiritual sense of superiority, not a belonging to the right group, but a gratitude that sees life for the gift it is, and rather than clinging to that gift, or hoarding it, gladly shares it with others. 

You are not alone and everything will be alright. 

Our task is to find the God who is with us, accept our small corner of the world He has given us, and work with Him to make it better.

The more we come to experience this God, the easier it becomes to hope.
And the more we hope, the less we cynical we become.
And the less cynical we become, the more we are able to enter cheerfully into our work and do some real good in our world.

Welcome to Joy!

Love,

Matt, Audrey, Ezra, & Baby #2

We had a special guest at staff meeting to teach us about managing our personal finances.

There were a lot of wipe outs...but we had a lot of fun too :-)

The girls were more cautious, but they picked it up quickly.

Taxi and Micky both did great for their first time skating.

A rare photo of everyone on their feet.

Good moments, meeting Audrey and Ez for lunch.

Greetings from Thailand! 

As I get older, I notice that time has a way of accelerating.  How is my son two years old already?  How has it been almost 4 years since we moved to Chiang Mai?

And if I am not careful, I miss the moments.

Life tends to move into habit and familiar ruts.

How many times have you washed the dishes?  

Done the laundry?  

Driven that same route to work everyday? 

This is not a bad thing.  I like routine in my life.  There is a comfort there, and an efficiency.  We learn through repetition.  If you have ever watched workers in a skilled trade, you can tell who has been at it for a long time, because they don't waste any time or resources.

But there is also a risk with routine.  The risk is that our days begin to merge and blur together.

But there are moments in every day that will never be repeated.

Ezra thought he would help with the whiteboard at Thai church.

Child Protection Training with our house parents. Big "thank you" to the Think Small Foundation for coming!

Ez helping at a car wash to raise money for camp!

Days, like people and snowflakes, are unique.  No two are the same.

I am, by nature, a hurrier.  Things need to be done and I want to get them done.  The checklist looms over me like a cloud.

One of the best things that has happened to me in the past 2 years is learning from our Director at Faithful Heart, Dave Callahan, about the 'Unhurried Life.'

Because a lot of moments get lost in our hurry.  And a lot of people.

When we hurry through life, everything and everyone becomes a little blurry.

We don't have time to see faces, and look into eyes, and wonder about beauty and pain, and hopes and dreams.

It's like taking in beautiful scenery at 80 miles an hour.  You might see the large things, but the little things will blow right by you.

But it is hard to slow down.  It is hard to be still.

Paula has not seen her birth mother for some time, it was a happy reunion!

Dad's birthday gift turned out well this year!  Amazing Thai artist!

The rules of this game are unclear, but enthusiasm was not lacking.

Life for us in Thailand right now is full, and getting fuller.  With one child of our own, another due next month, and 35 'adopted' children from Faithful Heart, there is plenty to think and worry about.

"What did Ezra just put in his mouth?  Was that a bug?  How did he get a knife in the microwave?"

"Khun Matt, the college students have stopped doing their chores.  Can you talk to them?"

"Khun Matt the school called, and one of the girls stole some money today."

"Khun Matt we need to go back to the land office for a 4th time, they need more paperwork."

And on and on it goes.  We all have our own list.

My Mom calls it the 'tyranny of the urgent': That nagging pressure that we need to get more done.

Here is a revolutionary thought:  Maybe we need to get less done.

Ginger Farm!  Audrey is due in October!!

Thinking of the small ones in our care...

I just finished a book by a man called John Woolman.  The writing is difficult to read, but the man was something special.

He was one of the first in America to publicly travel and speak against the buying and selling of human beings.

Something he said surprised me.

He said the root of the slave trade was not racism, or some great evil in a few men, but something far more common in virtually all men---the desire to have more.

He said we make two mistakes:

1.  Either we do not work hard enough, and try to find ways to manipulate others to do our share of the work so we can rest at ease.

Or

2.  We work too hard in an effort to get more, have more, and give more for ourselves and our children that neither we, or they need. 

And both are wrong---both are missing the kind of life God wants people to enjoy. 

And both eventually lead to the oppression and manipulation of human beings---whether consciously or not.

Strange, isn't it?  Follow the train of reasoning for a minute:

Baby selfies are adorable

Saturday morning fun...I could get used to this!

The other Tiger Woods improving his golf game (that's my dad).

That baby is getting ready to make her appearance!

Let me give you a suggestion that has been a huge help to me:
(thank you Dave Callahan & Dallas Willard)


(Maybe bring some paper and a pen).

Sit down and look at your life---your family, your work, your schedule, your activities and hobbies, your kids' activities, your marriage, your future goals, etc.

Be honest and ask yourself:  "Is this the best life I envision for myself and my family?"

If you cannot honestly answer Yes, then be brave and keep going.

"Why not?" 

Here you need to be careful.  The most common answer to this question goes something like this:

"Well, if only I had more..."

More time, more energy, more money, etc.

But here is the point Jesus can really help free us.

He says a good life is possible, no matter who you are, or where you are, right now.

There is an abundantly good life available to each of us right now.

(There are exceptions where human beings are afflicting great evil on others, but I am assuming most of you are not in that boat.)

Child Protection Training with our kids.

Swimming with the girls!

Learning together!

So go back to our question:

Why isn't life as good as it might be for you right now?

If we are honest, I think most of us will trace it back to one of those two mistakes John Woolman pointed out.

Either we are not working enough, and oppressing others...

or

We are working too hard and oppressing ourselves and our families.

And both of these come from a feeling that we need more.

But Jesus says we don't need more in order to have a good life.

More isn't the answer.

God is happy to give you all you need for a good life already.

This hurried life, this frantic schedule, this pressure and stress of debt, and bills, and responsibilities, isn't necessary.

Not only is it not necessary, it's robbing our lives of happiness.

We are missing the moments in the hurry.

We need an unhurried life to enjoy the moments.

This is not easy, and it takes a lot of trust.

We love these sweet girls!

Little Mien baby!

Learning about our bodies

You get the idea.

This reaches deep into us, and how we think (we can't help it).

And quietly, Jesus' long forgotten words whisper:

"Life does not consist in abundance of possessions (having more)." 

Life is more than food and clothes and tvs and big houses and big vacations.

We know this in theory, but we still get caught up in the current of our culture.

So as you think about your life, for you and your family, stop to enjoy the moments.

Maybe a better life means having less, but enjoying more.

The Bible has a famous saying, that "God's mercies are new every morning."

What that means is that God gives wonderful new gifts to us each day.

And God's best gifts are people and moments.

So slow down, take a good look at your life, don't be afraid to make changes.

Enjoy the moments, and experience the life God wants to give you.

Thank you for the moments we enjoy with so many of you.
We like you just the way you are.

Matt, Audrey, Ezra, & Baby #2 (Due October 28!!!)

Always enjoy telling our kids how valuable and loved they each are!

Big thank you to Ben & Sarah Klopp for our new wood planer!  Excited to help our kids learn more about making furniture!

Ezra losses his crib when the new baby comes, so we started a new bed with our new wood planer!

Impromptu dinner with our German neighbors---Yes, Calvin and Hobbes is cross cultural!